Hehe!
Sunday 13 November 2016
Sunday 16 October 2016
Yes, you can beat 'good' and 'bad' food thoughts.
There are a few points that we all need to remember about beating good and bad food thoughts!
You need to tell yourself the truth. Food is FUEL. It is ENERGY. That's why calories are known as the energy information. It is energy to live. Food contains nutrients and vitamins that keep your body alive.
Bread is a fear food for many who are recovering or dealing with an eating disorder, but guess what? Bread actually has important and crucial carbs and B-vitamins to feed your brain, bones and muscles! Another fact, ice cream has essential fatty acids for healthy hormones and healthy hair, skin, and nails, as well as calcium for your bones! How amazing is that??
Food is meant to be enjoyed! Eating comfort foods are fine. Like some foods contain more nutritional value than others, and other foods contain emotional comfort, pleasure, and social experiences. These experiences are wonderful for your mental, emotional, and social health.
Your body is structured to enjoy and feel pleasure from food! If humans didn’t enjoy food, we wouldn’t be alive! When we’re hungry, our brain is designed to go out and seek food and feel pleasure when we eat to keep us alive.
You need to tell yourself the truth. Food is FUEL. It is ENERGY. That's why calories are known as the energy information. It is energy to live. Food contains nutrients and vitamins that keep your body alive.
Bread is a fear food for many who are recovering or dealing with an eating disorder, but guess what? Bread actually has important and crucial carbs and B-vitamins to feed your brain, bones and muscles! Another fact, ice cream has essential fatty acids for healthy hormones and healthy hair, skin, and nails, as well as calcium for your bones! How amazing is that??
Food is meant to be enjoyed! Eating comfort foods are fine. Like some foods contain more nutritional value than others, and other foods contain emotional comfort, pleasure, and social experiences. These experiences are wonderful for your mental, emotional, and social health.
Your body is structured to enjoy and feel pleasure from food! If humans didn’t enjoy food, we wouldn’t be alive! When we’re hungry, our brain is designed to go out and seek food and feel pleasure when we eat to keep us alive.
Sunday 9 October 2016
World Mental Health Day (October 10)
Today is World Mental Health Day, make a promise to yourself - a promise is yours, and yours alone, and can be anything you think will help to look after your own mental health and wellbeing.
Shocking news but, according to the World Health Organization, by 2030, depression will be the leading illness in the world.
October 10 is World Mental Health Day, a very important day for us all. There is no better time than now to educate people on mental health issues and raise awareness. YOU could save a life.
Here is a great link: https://1010.org.au/need-help
Shocking news but, according to the World Health Organization, by 2030, depression will be the leading illness in the world.
October 10 is World Mental Health Day, a very important day for us all. There is no better time than now to educate people on mental health issues and raise awareness. YOU could save a life.
Here is a great link: https://1010.org.au/need-help
Quote of the Day!
Be a rainbow in someone else's cloud.
- Maya Angelou
Remember this.
You are not what happened to you.
You are what you choose to become.
You are a survivor.
You are strong.
You are loved.
You are what you choose to become.
You are a survivor.
You are strong.
You are loved.
How to have a wonderful day!
- Smile at strangers
- Slow down
- Look at some flowers
- Enjoy the sunshine
- Say please and thank you
- Laugh
- Wish others a lovely day
- Pet a cute animal or look at cute animals on youtube
- Eat some nice, filling food
- Listen to your favourite songs
- Slow down
- Look at some flowers
- Enjoy the sunshine
- Say please and thank you
- Laugh
- Wish others a lovely day
- Pet a cute animal or look at cute animals on youtube
- Eat some nice, filling food
- Listen to your favourite songs
Tuesday 4 October 2016
Thursday 29 September 2016
DIY: Distraction Box
A distraction box, or self harm survival kit, is just that - a box full of things to distract you from self injuring. You can put anything in there that you like, and can decorate the box however much you want to. Some things that we think could help include:
- Stress balls
Pen and paper
Chamomile tea bag (renowned for relieving stress apparently)
Bubble wrap
Positive quotes
Funny cartoons (laughter is best medicine)
Crossword
Plasticine
Phone numbers, useful websites
Photos or pictures that mean something to you
Sudoku or little puzzle games
Positive stories from others
Questions to ask yourself before you self harm
Some riddles
Essential oil scents like lavender, clary sage and rosemary, all good for anxiety, depression type symptoms
Crosswords
A rubix cube
Jokes - silly simple jokes that make people laugh because they're so cheesy!
Bubble wrap
A cuddly toy
Small colouring book and pencils
Photos of relaxing scenes - mountains, rivers, etc.
Question/therapy/avoidance cards that say things like 'Do I really want to do this?' or something supportive
Your favourite film - something you always enjoy watching
A good (but non triggery) book
A CD of uplifting music
Monday 26 September 2016
Thursday 22 September 2016
Seeking help with self harm.
The major step is to talk to someone about it. It can be scary to bring up a topic that you've tried so hard to hide, but it can also be a significant release to finally let go of your secret and share what you’re struggling with.
It can be difficult to decide who you should open up to. It's best to select someone who isn’t going to gossip or try to take control of your recovery. Choose from whoever in your life makes you feel accepted and supported. That person could be a friend, teacher, therapist or relative. Remember, you don’t always have to choose someone you are close to.
It's important to focus on your emotions when you approach the topic of self harm with someone you trust. To best approach the situation, focus on the feelings or situations that lead to the self injury. This can allow the person you’re telling, to understand where you’re coming from. It also helps to let the person know why you’re telling them.
If talking in person is too daunting, perhaps a phone call or an email, or perhaps even a letter will be easier. However, don't pressure yourself into sharing things that you are certainly not comfortable disclosing. Remember, you're not obliged to show someone your self injury unless you feel the need to, ie. if there is an infection or the injury needs immediate medical treatment.
As confronting as it is to mention, it may also be difficult for the person you tell—especially if it’s a close friend or family member. They may react in a way that you do not like, such as reactions out of shock or fear or even anger. This is usually due to the fear and lack of understanding many have about self injury.
The better they understand self-harm, the better able they’ll be to support you.
Talking about self-harm can be very distressing and bring up a lot of emotions. It’s uncomfortable to confront and change behaviours that have stuck with a person for a while. But once you get past these first obstacles, you’ll start to feel better.
When's the right time to recover?
There is never more of a right time than NOW.
Believe that you can do this, no matter what.
That you can HEAL and RECOVER FULLY, no matter what anyone THINKS.
No matter what anyone has told you in the past.
No matter what you believed yesterday.
It can all be changed, instantly, right now.
But you HAVE to make a decision.
..because if you wait until you FEEL like doing recovery, well… you will be waiting FOREVER.
A lovely quote for the day.
"I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.”
Tuesday 20 September 2016
The scales.
I think it is so hard to destroy the scale because even in recovery, it is one last little piece of control. So that if things “get out of hand" with our weight, we will at least know. Because the only thing scarier than gaining (more) weight is not knowing when we gain weight.
The number on the scale has the ability to determine my mood for the entire day or even week and had became what I used to measure my worth..
No matter what the number was - high, low, or even if it remained the same - it was never, ever good enough. Logically it would make sense for a person who finds it so difficult to see the number on the scale to simply throw it out. Never weigh themselves again. That's not how it works.
For some of us the scale becomes the last piece of control we can grasp onto.
Letting go of the scale can be one of the more difficult parts of recovery for some, but please believe me when I say it is worth it. Although there might be a period of "withdrawal" and temptation to seek out a scale, it does not mean those eating disordered thoughts need to win. The best advice I received was to get angry and smash my scale with a sledgehammer, run it over with my car, or at least have a friend hide it. With a little time, it is possible to be completely free from compulsive weighing behaviors.
I've said it before, but I will say it again - life is too short to allow a bathroom scale to control my life. If you haven't already, go throw out your scale... now.
Consider this.
"...It's funny, when people think of triggers for people with eating disorders they often think of glossy magazines or models on catwalks. But, like you, loneliness is one of my biggest triggers.
Because ultimately, eating disorders are a coping mechanism for dealing with life.
Because ultimately, eating disorders are a coping mechanism for dealing with life.
People with eating disorders aren't "crazy" or shallow.
They are just people who are struggling."
Eating Disorder recovery phases
1. I Don’t Think I Have a Problem.
- It’s my body so leave me alone.
- There are people who are a lot thinner (worse) than I am
2. I Might Have a Problem But It’s Not That Bad.
- I only throw up once in a while.
- My physical didn’t show anything wrong so I am OK.
3. I Have a Problem But I Don’t Care.
- I know throwing up isn’t good for me, but it’s working for me so I don’t care.
- I could change if I wanted to, but I don’t.
4. I Want To Change But I Don’t Know How and I’m Scared.
- I want to eat normally, but I am afraid I will get fat (gain weight).
- I want to stop bingeing, but I can’t figure out where to start.
5. I Tried To Change But I Couldn’t.
- I told myself that I would not (fill in the blank) but I found myself doing it again.
- I don’t feel like I can really ever (change) get well, so why keep trying?
6. I Can Stop Some of the Behaviors But Not All of Them.
- I could stop purging, but I will not be able to eat more.
- My eating has gotten better, but my exercise is out of control.
7. I Can Stop the Behaviors, But Not My Thoughts.
- I can’t stop thinking about food and bingeing all the time.
- I keep counting calories over and over in my head and still want to lose weight.
8. I Am Often Free From Behaviors and Thoughts, But Not All the Time.
- I feel fine all day, but under stress I revert back to my unhealthy behaviors.
- I was fine, but wearing a bathing suit triggered my eating disorder thoughts, and with it some related behaviors.
9. I Am Free From Behaviors and Thoughts.
- I feel mostly OK in my body and am able to eat things I want and not feel guilty or anxious afterwards.
- Once I had stopped the behaviors for a period of time, at some point I realized that I was no longer having the thoughts or urges.
10. I Am Recovered.
- For a long time now, I no longer have thoughts, feelings, or behaviors related to my eating disorder.
- I accept my body’s natural size. My eating disorder is a thing of the past.
Monday 19 September 2016
Some truthful insight.
Remember, an Eating Disorder doesn’t mean you wither and die, it is life threatening at any point. Sometimes the people who are more likely to die are not those who have a lower BMI than you. This got me to thinking, while it is important to not have a dangerously low BMI, the focus on weight and BMI is incorrect.
If you don’t have to wither and die for an eating disorder to be fatal, then an eating disorder is like a burning candle, a person can only take so much, and like a candle run out of wax and wick too quick and snuff out, however, like a candle a slight gust of wind can also snuff it out as well.
That slight gust of metaphorical wind could take the form of a health scare, an electrolyte imbalance and this could occur even when people say to you, ‘but you don’t look ill?’
Despite not supposedly looking ill, you could be deathly ill, an eating disorder can be fatal.
When you think of a candle, it looks different to different people, some might imagine different coloured ones, a partly melted one etc… everyones view is different, and everyone with an eating disorder is different. There is no look to a person with an eating disorder, no sticky note taped to their back, or sign above their head.
What makes one candle snuff out, and another one burn on to the end?
It is never too late to seek help and the earlier the better, there is no such thing as not ill enough, you deserve help, you deserve the correct treatment, don’t be the candle that snuffs out or burns too quickly to the end.
Sunday 18 September 2016
It's okay to eat
somedays are easier than others.
somedays you feel like you can’t go on.
somedays you want to forget recovery and go back to your old habits.
here’s a friendly reminder for those tricky times:
it’s okay to eat.
food is not the enemy, the disease is.
show your eating disorder who’s boss.
you are beautiful.
you deserve gentle reminders.
Online Resources (EXTENSIVE LIST)
Chat Rooms/Forums:
www.eatingdisorders.org.au
www.b-eat.co.uk
www.mentorconnect-ed.org
People with Eating Disorders
www.isis.org.au
www.eda.org.au
www.eatingdisorders.org.au
www.butterflyfoundation.org.au
www.recoveryispossible.com.au
www.bulimiahelp.org
www.smart-eating.com
www.oabrisbane.com
www.mentorconnect-ed.org
www.innersolutions.net
www.something-fishy.com
www.recoveryrecord.com
www.pale-reflections.com/
http://www.eatingdisordersanonymous.org
http://www.graceonthemoon.com/
Men with Eating Disorders
www.mengetedstoo.co.uk
www.ichosetolive.com
www.namedinc.org
Body Image/Self Esteem
www.beautyredefined.net
www.lifeafterdiets.com.au
www.girlsinc.org
www.about-face.org
www.bodypositive.com
General Mental Health
www.ifnotdieting.com.au
www.beyondblue.org.au
www.sane.org
www.depressionet.org.au
www.eatingdisorders.org.au
www.b-eat.co.uk
www.mentorconnect-ed.org
People with Eating Disorders
www.isis.org.au
www.eda.org.au
www.eatingdisorders.org.au
www.butterflyfoundation.org.au
www.recoveryispossible.com.au
www.bulimiahelp.org
www.smart-eating.com
www.oabrisbane.com
www.mentorconnect-ed.org
www.innersolutions.net
www.something-fishy.com
www.recoveryrecord.com
www.pale-reflections.com/
http://www.eatingdisordersanonymous.org
http://www.graceonthemoon.com/
Men with Eating Disorders
www.mengetedstoo.co.uk
www.ichosetolive.com
www.namedinc.org
Body Image/Self Esteem
www.beautyredefined.net
www.lifeafterdiets.com.au
www.girlsinc.org
www.about-face.org
www.bodypositive.com
General Mental Health
www.ifnotdieting.com.au
www.beyondblue.org.au
www.sane.org
www.depressionet.org.au
Things that signify a possible Eating Disorder relapse (WARNING SIGNS)
In my experience, I have also needed to consciously work at reducing my exposure to triggers and where exposure is unavoidable, to create a plan of how I will navigate those times of increased vulnerability. Some of my triggers include:
- Dieting or ‘diet talk’
- Physical illness that affects appetite/eating
- Too many late nights or lack of sleep
- Forgetting to take my medications
- Missing meals (it is important for me to carry snacks in my bag in the event that I am unable to access my normal meal)
- Becoming too busy and failing to make time for self-care, rest, and relaxation
- Viewing a magazine that focuses on weight, diets, weight-loss, eating disorders, or has an abundance of unrealistically thin models.
- Weighing/measuring myself
- Seeing myself in photos
- Learning of a friend’s relapse or weight loss
- Clothes shopping
- Interruptions or changes to schedules
- Life stressors or pressures
- Relational issues
- Strong emotions such as shame, fear, guilt, anxiety, anger, depression, and loneliness.
- Boredom
Tips on dealing with emotional responses
Imagining your emotions as clouds in the sky – watch them float by in their own time, eventually passing out of sight.
Take 10 deep, slow breaths.
Utilise a feelings/emotions chart to try to identify what I am feeling and grade its intensity.
Visualise the feelings as a wave – ride the wave into the shore.
Sit and tolerate the anxiety/distress/unpleasant feelings.
Take opposite action.
Count up and backwards in 3’s, 4’s, 6’s, 7’s, etc.
Engage in a relaxation activity.
Identify 3 things I can see, 3 things I can hear, 3 colours I notice, what I can smell, and textures I can feel.
Journal P.E.A.C.E. – Pause – take a few breaths to ground me and take me back into the role of an observer; Examine – and observe with curiosity what I am feeling and where I am feeling it. Recognise and label the emotion. Allow – accept the distress of the emotion. Compassion – say kind words to myself…the same words I would say to a hurting child or good friend and comfort myself. Engage – rather than ‘reacting’, ‘respond’ in a way that aligns with my values and how I would like to act in the midst of this emotion.
Take 10 deep, slow breaths.
Utilise a feelings/emotions chart to try to identify what I am feeling and grade its intensity.
Visualise the feelings as a wave – ride the wave into the shore.
Sit and tolerate the anxiety/distress/unpleasant feelings.
Take opposite action.
Count up and backwards in 3’s, 4’s, 6’s, 7’s, etc.
Engage in a relaxation activity.
Identify 3 things I can see, 3 things I can hear, 3 colours I notice, what I can smell, and textures I can feel.
Journal P.E.A.C.E. – Pause – take a few breaths to ground me and take me back into the role of an observer; Examine – and observe with curiosity what I am feeling and where I am feeling it. Recognise and label the emotion. Allow – accept the distress of the emotion. Compassion – say kind words to myself…the same words I would say to a hurting child or good friend and comfort myself. Engage – rather than ‘reacting’, ‘respond’ in a way that aligns with my values and how I would like to act in the midst of this emotion.
An interesting description of Normal Eating.
Normal eating is going to the table hungry and eating until you are satisfied.
It is being able to choose food you like and eat it and truly get enough of it -- not just stop eating because you think you should.
Normal eating is being able to give some thought to your food selection so you get nutritious food, but not being so wary and restrictive that you miss out on enjoyable food.
Normal eating is giving yourself permission to eat sometimes because you are happy, sad, or bored, or just because it feels good.
Normal eating is three meals a day, or four or five, or it can be choosing to munch along the way. It is leaving some cookies on the plate because you know you can have some again tomorrow, or it is eating more now because they taste so wonderful.
Normal eating is overeating at times, feeling stuffed and uncomfortable. And it can be under eating at times and wishing you had more.
Normal eating is trusting your body to make up for your mistakes in eating. Normal eating takes up some of your time and attention, but keeps its place as only one important area of your life.
It is being able to choose food you like and eat it and truly get enough of it -- not just stop eating because you think you should.
Normal eating is being able to give some thought to your food selection so you get nutritious food, but not being so wary and restrictive that you miss out on enjoyable food.
Normal eating is giving yourself permission to eat sometimes because you are happy, sad, or bored, or just because it feels good.
Normal eating is three meals a day, or four or five, or it can be choosing to munch along the way. It is leaving some cookies on the plate because you know you can have some again tomorrow, or it is eating more now because they taste so wonderful.
Normal eating is overeating at times, feeling stuffed and uncomfortable. And it can be under eating at times and wishing you had more.
Normal eating is trusting your body to make up for your mistakes in eating. Normal eating takes up some of your time and attention, but keeps its place as only one important area of your life.
Thursday 18 February 2016
The fact that Onision's fanbase is predominantly young, impressionable girls legitimately scares me. His views on mental illness are unhelpful, damaging and close to aggressive. Telling young people who are possibly dealing with self harm/self injury, other destructive behaviours and depression to take themselves to a mental institution is beyond ridiculous. That's incredibly ableist and insensitive.
As featured on @onisiondrama, Onision believes that Women who have difficulty coping with the long term effects of sexual abuse/assault & other traumatic events (ie., self-injurious behaviour) or women struggling with eating disorders, or women who have “daddy issues” (apparently a lot of women have daddy issues according to Dr. Onision). Bullshit. Way to generalize people and also be fucking insensitive to anyone that has experienced family abuse. Don't get me started on how he only deems abuse as being solely physical.
I'll add more later but i'm pissed off even thinking about such views.
As featured on @onisiondrama, Onision believes that Women who have difficulty coping with the long term effects of sexual abuse/assault & other traumatic events (ie., self-injurious behaviour) or women struggling with eating disorders, or women who have “daddy issues” (apparently a lot of women have daddy issues according to Dr. Onision). Bullshit. Way to generalize people and also be fucking insensitive to anyone that has experienced family abuse. Don't get me started on how he only deems abuse as being solely physical.
I'll add more later but i'm pissed off even thinking about such views.
Thursday 11 February 2016
The Butterfly Project
The Butterfly Project has been created for self-harmers who feel they are ready to stop and need the motivation or support to do so. A member’s hypnotherapist, who found this idea on an online blog and felt that it was a good idea that should be promoted as a distraction, has recommended it.
The idea is simple. The self-harmer simply draws a butterfly on their place(s) of self-harm and, if the butterfly fades without them self-harming, it means it has lived and flown away, giving them a sense of achievement. Whereas if they do self-harm with the butterfly there; they will have to wash it off. If that does happen, they can start again by drawing a new one on.
The idea is simple. The self-harmer simply draws a butterfly on their place(s) of self-harm and, if the butterfly fades without them self-harming, it means it has lived and flown away, giving them a sense of achievement. Whereas if they do self-harm with the butterfly there; they will have to wash it off. If that does happen, they can start again by drawing a new one on.
Distractions from self harm!
1.Sleep
2.read
3.dance
4.sing
5.write
6.talk to pets
7.dance with pets
8.play with pets
9.poke pets
10.buy a pet
11.talk to plants
12. dance with plants
13.watch other people and make up life stories for them
14.sing into your hairbrush
15.experiment with makeup (even the guys)
16.do a fashion show for yourself or someone else
17.stay around other people
18.surf the net
19.look for stupid pictures on Google
20.go onto bored.com
21.make a cd
22.listen to music
23.make a video
24.draw
25.sit in front of the mirror and pull faces
26.change hair style/colour
27.draw over pretty people in magazines
28.make a collage of photos
29.make a collage that represents you (all positive pictures)
30.make someone a present
31.oragami
32.write a letter to someone
32.reorganise your cds or videos
33.make a happy box (put all the things that make you smile into it)
34.change your room
35.clean your room
36.clean the house
37.go to the gym
38.read the dictionary
39.read the bible
40.study
41.revision
42.work
43.learn another language
44.talk to a friend
45.phone someone
46.prank call someone
47.do the washing up
48.run around naked
49.put all the clothes in your wardrobe on and try to walk
50.jump up and down and see how long you can go for
51.count up to a million
52.try out new/different signatures
53.try writing with your toes
54.play games on the computer
55.play games on PS2, X BOX, PS etc
56.play cards with someone
57.learn new card tricks
58.Play solitaire
59.take a bath
60.take a shower
61.recreate a scene from a book
62.pretend to be someone stupid on Eastenders
63.write your own dictionary
64.write a book
65.buy a book
66.see how much gum you can chew at once
67.make your own board game
68.say the alphabet backwards three times in a row without mistakes!
69.Laugh at the number "69" haha!
70.do a word search
71.make your own word search
72.make a little flip book of stick men
73.go out with friends
74.go out with family
75.make a cake
76.melt kitkats
77.play an instrument
78.learn how to play an instrument
79.Paper aeroplanes
80.Redecorate some of ur clothes (ask for permission first!)
81.Hug one of ur teddy bears as tightly as poss. until the urges go away
82.watch the film you hate the most twice
83.Watch the complete trilogy of Lord Of The Rings? or read the books
84.Use a red felt tip pen instead
85.Go shopping
86.Prepare for the marathon
87.Go see a show/opera
88.Throw a party
89.If you had to organise a party for 100 celebrities what would it be like
90.Which 100 celebs would you invite
91.Count how many leaves there are on a tree
92.Play footy
93.Make up your own songs
94.Pretend to perform them for your sweetie
95.Pray
96.Read a thesaurus
97.Try and find the longest word in the dictionary
98.Paint your toes different colours
99.Try and keep smiling for 10 minutes? (it's so hard)
100.Play dares with your friends
101.Pretend it's April fools today!
102.Write a love letter telling the one you care about most how much they mean to you
103.Knit
104.Make your own wacky outfit
105.Go out with your mates n dare each other to try on whatever you pick out for em
106.Try and make pictures or faces out of clouds
107.Try join up all the stars with your finger
108.Learn what all the stars mean
109.Make your own quiz on here
110.Look at photos
111.See how much u can hole punch a piece of A4 paper
112.Try and see how many words u can type in 5 minutes
113.See if u can make a short story with the emoticons on msn
114.On RYL post to every thread in one section, then do another
115.Watch everything on one channel on the television without falling asleep or getting up
116.How long can u go without blinking
117.Give your guinea pig/hamster/pet rat or mouse a HAIR CUT (please be careful....for your pets sake!)
118.Scan your bum
119.Scan your bum then print loads of copies and give them to all your mates or post them thru people’s doors
120.Write in your diary/journal
121.Create one online
122.See how many channels u can go through on the Tele without ur thumb gettin tired
123.Miss call everyone u have saved in ur mobile? see how many respond
124.Research 'Okapi' on google.com
125.how how many words you can write in a minute, about anything!
126.Peel all the white bits off an orange
127.How much gum can u chew
128.Sit on the toilet
129.See how many times you can spin around without being sick
130.Teach your pet a new trick
131.how long can u keep your hands together
132.how bout counting how many distractions there are on this page then telling me how many
133.how long can you keep your eyes closed and not go to sleep!
134.PM everyone who has helped u saying thank u
135.Have a nice bath, listen to some relaxing music
136. E mail me...or a friend
137.Kiss everyone around you
138.put your phone on charge
139.Buy a phone!
140.Practise dancing
141.do some cheerleading
142.practise cheerleading
143.buy pompoms
144.play with pompoms
145.make your own pompoms
146.knit
147.Plan your dream wedding
148.Plan your dream holiday
149.Go to a concert
150.Take photos of anything n see if they could mean anything to u
151.Joy rid a bus
152.Fall asleep on a bus and see where u end up
153.Play bop it that’s well cool!
154.Organise a sleep over
155.Play spin-the-bottle
156.Learn to play chess
157.Play chess
158.Play all the board games you have in the house
159.Buy the newest type of monopoly I believe it's Lord Of The Rings
160.Listen to every CD you own
161.See how long you can go without saying anything
162.What is the weirdest sandwich you can make AND eat it!
163.Name all the seven dwarfs
164.Watch every Disney film you have
165.Make up a friendship test, see how well your mates know you
166.Dress up as the opposite sex
167.Do a puzzle
168.Make your own puzzle
169.Clean the hover well the hover normally cleans everything else n 170.doesn't get cleaned itself!
171.Learn to ski
172.Read your old letters
173.Design new flip flops
174.Organise your wardrobe by colour
175.Go to your nearest farm
176.See how far you can walk
177.How many times can you run up and down the stairs
178.Do your own word association page on paper
179.Search for stupid stuff on e bay
180.Blow up big lemonade bottles
181.How many insects can u count in your garden
182.How long can you hold a spider for
183.See how long you can keep jus one eye open for
184.Eat cheerys from a jar with a toothpick! Try finish them all!
185.Get a mate, one of u dress up as an angel and the other a devil then go round shops telling people to buy n not buy certain clothes!
186.See how many songs u can download in 30 minutes
187.Record yourself on a tape n make copies and give them to friends...tell them to listen while they sleep. you can stay stuff like "I'm your best friend in the whole world i deserve lots n lots of presents!"
188.See how many words you can write in a minute
189.See how many of those words you could write in a minute
190.make pancakes
191.eat pancakes
192.pretend you're a ghost who would you haunt first
193.make three wishes
194.make more wishes
195.cook all types of egg , try them all and see which one you prefer i bet you tried them all
196.Write a list of cool places to go on different pieces of paper, screw them up and pick one
197.Paint your fingernails different colours
198.Send people messages on the net in white font (with white background)
199.Change your MySpace layout!
200. See if I made any number errors
201. Keep your hands busy.
202. Look for a really hard Maths question on the internet and try and solve it.
203. Write Stories such as FanFiction.
204. Write down things you are proud of.
205. Go to the gym and work out vigorously to get things out of your system.
206. Make a bracelet.
207. Write mistakes on a mirror with an erasable marker, and then wash them away.
208. Write on yourself with a Sharpie (or something you can easily wash off)
209. Take Pictures.
210. Private Rave. Listen to upbeat songs and dance and jump around like crazy.
211. Make a long paper chain.
212. Watch the night sky either in silence or listen to an iPod.
213. Go to the park and go on the swings.
214. Bake something.
215. Write out quotes.
216. Think of something and try and describe it.
217. Play with blue tack.
218. Throw eggs at trees.
219. Learn the alphabet backwards.
220. Play Guitar Hero to keep your fingers busy.
221. Jump on a trampoline.
222. Make a Happy/Distraction Box.
223. Make a Happy Board, pin it up on your wall and cover it with bright/positive things and things that make you happy.
224. Rip up photos and stick them back together again.
225. Climb something (safely).226. Shower/Bathe with aromatherapy soaps.
227. Aromatherapy candles.228. Listen to your cat purr.
229. Tidy your room.
230. Shopping.
231. Do crunches.
232. Make an A – Z list of anything you want.
233. Do a puzzle.
234. Throw confetti around.
235. Origami.
236. List all the reasons you have not to hurt yourself.
237. Untangle things.
238. Make a list of ten things you love everyday.
239. Go on your games console and play a game that frustrates you.
240. Try ‘tapping’.
241. Try and do a Rubiks Cube.
242. Go for a long drive.
243. Try and find hilarious videos on YouTube.
244. Try Yoga.
245. Put a picture of a loved ones face near your tools, it’ll remind you not to give in to your urges.
246. Find letters/postcards and reread them.
247. The Butterfly Project.
248. Grab lollipops, a colouring book and a box of crayons etc and be a kid.
249. Try Brain Training for Nintendo.
250. Hold ice.
251. Do some gardening.
252. Draw on a patio with some chalk.
Beating the urges (as published by RecoverYourLife)
What is an Urge?
Whether you suffer from depression, self harm, an eating disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder or anything similar, the word “urge” is often used to describe the over powering feelings to hurt yourself, others or to do something against your will. They can often be very difficult to control and may causes extreme discomfort to the person suffering from them. More often than not, they can consume the sufferer so they fail to see or think about anything other than the urge itself. Each person acts and thinks differently when experiencing an urge, as they can come in different forms depending on what it means to that person and what triggered it to happen.
Why is it important to beat them?
As with any addiction or habit, the road to recovery starts with the first "No." Standing up to your urge and making the choice to resist can be both difficult and rewarding. Every urge will pass, given time - but only if you choose not to act on it. Whenever you give in to the temptation, you only feed that next urge and make the next opportunity to resist even harder. While it may seem a bit pointless sometimes ("What's this one cut gonna hurt?"), it truly is worthwhile. Each time you resist an urge, you are empowering yourself and, little by little, working towards your goal. You deserve to be free from your struggle.
How can this be done?
There are many techniques to overcoming urges, as they often vary from person to person. However, there are two key ways to survive through urges. These are:
Intervention
Why let the urge build up to something you can no longer control? With intervention, you can distract yourself whilst the urge is small and easier to control. This way you have more of a chance of success in overcoming it and recovering quickly. The most common techniques usually involve distracting your mind from what is bothering you and keeping your hands busy and moving. Examples of this are listening to music or kneading bread.
Prevention
Do you know what sets you off and pushes your buttons? With prevention, learning your weaknesses can be a great way to avoid getting into the situation in the first place. The most common ways of doing this is to note down what had happened to cause the urge or what you already know triggers you.
Whether you suffer from depression, self harm, an eating disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder or anything similar, the word “urge” is often used to describe the over powering feelings to hurt yourself, others or to do something against your will. They can often be very difficult to control and may causes extreme discomfort to the person suffering from them. More often than not, they can consume the sufferer so they fail to see or think about anything other than the urge itself. Each person acts and thinks differently when experiencing an urge, as they can come in different forms depending on what it means to that person and what triggered it to happen.
Why is it important to beat them?
As with any addiction or habit, the road to recovery starts with the first "No." Standing up to your urge and making the choice to resist can be both difficult and rewarding. Every urge will pass, given time - but only if you choose not to act on it. Whenever you give in to the temptation, you only feed that next urge and make the next opportunity to resist even harder. While it may seem a bit pointless sometimes ("What's this one cut gonna hurt?"), it truly is worthwhile. Each time you resist an urge, you are empowering yourself and, little by little, working towards your goal. You deserve to be free from your struggle.
How can this be done?
There are many techniques to overcoming urges, as they often vary from person to person. However, there are two key ways to survive through urges. These are:
Intervention
Why let the urge build up to something you can no longer control? With intervention, you can distract yourself whilst the urge is small and easier to control. This way you have more of a chance of success in overcoming it and recovering quickly. The most common techniques usually involve distracting your mind from what is bothering you and keeping your hands busy and moving. Examples of this are listening to music or kneading bread.
Prevention
Do you know what sets you off and pushes your buttons? With prevention, learning your weaknesses can be a great way to avoid getting into the situation in the first place. The most common ways of doing this is to note down what had happened to cause the urge or what you already know triggers you.
Saturday 30 January 2016
Suicidal?
How can I help myself?
If you are feeling suicidal don’t try to cope alone. Sometimes problems seem insurmountable or the mental anguish is unbearable – share how you feel with someone else:- Talk to someone – talking to a family member or a friend or a colleague can bring huge relief. A pastor, minister, priest or any other spiritual figure are useful sources of support
- Talk to a helpful advisor – by phoning in complete confidence and anonymity a helpline such as Breathing Space, the Samaritans, Childline etc
- Talk to your doctor – if you are going through a longer period of feeling low or suicidal, you may be suffering from clinical depression
- Talk to your mental health care team – if you are already seeing a psychiatrist, psychologist or community psychiatric nurse
- Contact emergency services – are you at high risk at this time of killing yourself? Do you have a plan and the means to complete suicide?
What can I do to help someone who may be suicidal?
- Most important – treat the person seriously
- Be direct and talk openly about suicide and don’t avoid the issue
- Be sure and willing to listen and accept the individual’s feelings
- Be non-judgmental and don’t debate the rights or wrongs of suicide
- Be there for the person and be involved
- Don’t dare them to do it
- Don’t act shocked
- Don’t be sworn to confidentiality and seek support
- Offer hope that alternatives are available
- Take action by removing any means they may have to complete suicide
- Get assistance from appropriate support agencies.